Observe the cycle of cycles…


Look around and we observe everything  starts and ends. Some within our lifetime and some beyond it. Some immediately and some after a lag. A year ends to start a new year. Days ends to start a night which again ends to start a day again. Our thoughts start and end to move to new thoughts. Our emotions, vision, smell, taste, hunger, sleep, freshness, tiredness, life, joy, miseries, death all follow one universal formula of start and end. Our planets, solar system, Galaxy and the universes are also deemed to start and end. Nothing is permanent and everything seems transient. One should just accept and calmly observe the start and end as a natural law of nature. Neither get too euphoric or too miserable with either. We need to learn to be a happy witness always, with love and gratitude to all around us.

A routine allows focus…


Most people tend to get bored with routine. We need changes and new excitement to go through our lives. We struggle to break routines and create more and more clutter in a way to experience new sources of happiness. Nature around us seems quite comfortable with a routine. Water in a river just flows. Waves of oceans keep coming back and forth. The sun and moon just about go about their daily routines to its schedule. Seasons change routinely. Plants and animals have a very natural routine. Fortunately, all their routine behaviours keep us alive. There seems to be a peace and giving feeling around routines. The mind is calmer with routines and the body is less disturbed during routines. It’s time for humans to enjoy the  peace and happiness around routines than be stressed on constantly getting bored and struggling to break routines. However, adapt to change when it happens naturally and even start a new routine but do not get stressed on an existing peaceful  routine.

Hatred can make you blind…


Love and hate are two sides of an emotion and both are equally powerful. Everyone knows hate has negative vibes and can only cause emotional damage to yourself. You hate something or someone and you feel bad. Sometimes hating becomes a habit and an addictive one. One goes blind in hate when one starts to derive pleasure out of it. Few hate others to feel they are superior and few hate to insult others. This false feeling builds on and it becomes an addictive habit. It’s quite easy to continue hating for one reason or the other. This leads to a state where one’s judgement gets clouded and hate continues to thrive. One should try and convert hate to love or forgiveness to feel at peace and also spread peace around us. One can look deeply and always find something positive to build on and not get biased only on the negatives.

When not to talk…


One talks to either share knowledge or to acquire knowledge. Acquisition of new knowledge happens when one listens carefully, questions it for clarifications, analyses it with reference to what one knows, internalises it based on personal reconfirmation and creates an mindful intention to store it for our future use. Sharing is usually meant for others but also can be used as a reconfirmation of what one knows. This is based on how others accept or reject or fine tune the piece of knowledge you have shared. However, sharing should be done only when the other person is open to listening and engaging in a productive manner else it becomes a useless exercise. One needs to judge this during a conversation before continuing the sharing. The art of not talking is as important as when to talk.

Unbiased awareness leads to solutions…


All of us have a tendency to judge ourselves with a positive bias as it just feels good. Any problem we may have is never ours but should be easily blamed on others. Any weakness we have can be easily justified. It’s an unconditional and blind support for ourselves which feeds our false ego. Anyone pointing out a problem in you has to be because the other person is judging with a bias and wrongly. While this keeps ourselves looking good within our own judgement, it can lead to a false view of yourself. One learns and grows in life only through humility and by continuously being open to and being aware of one’s own problems thereby trying to either correct it or work around it. A solution is never needed when there is no problem and a problem when ignored continues to grow with time.

Dealing with an advice…


There are many interactions with people where there may be an advice communicated to you. It may be based on your question or just an observation or an unsolicited one. It may come from someone younger or older or wiser or someone you feel is stupid and worthless. How does one react to this advice is an art and key to your improvement. Firstly one should focus on the essence of the advice than the person who has uttered it. Secondly, if the advice seems good for you, absorb it and try to implement it. Thirdly, if its an advice which you practice anyway, feel happy that you have reinforced what you practice. Lastly, if it is a wrong advice from your point of view, ignore it and  slowly try to bring your point of view without putting the other person down.

Past biases in relationships..


Any relationship matures with time. With the help of patience, tolerance, analysis of situational behaviors and various tests of understanding,  it reaches a balance of comfort and ease.  On the flip side, this creates a set of biases which has been established in the past and which unfortunately does not allow the future relationship to be stable. People do change with time based on so many factors which they go through. This also means that many a time old biases has to be kept aside and a new understanding has to be reached with new useful biases to be created for the future.

Desires leads to happiness or sadness…


One goes to a restaurant,  desires and orders for a dosa expecting it to be to one’s liking with tasty chutney and sambar on the side. After some time, Dosa comes with a tasty chutney and a badly made sambar. One has a choice to be happy with the dosa and chutney or be sad with the dosa and sambar. One also can get angry and stressed by the sambar that you don’t enjoy the good dosa and chutney. If one has gone with no specific desire and no expectation, one can be happy with what has come. Desires can lead to both happiness and sadness in varying degrees and no desire can lead to accepting what has come to you. Many choices for you to choose from.

Understanding misunderstanding…


We often find that even when we are correct from our point of view, others find it incorrect from their point of view. Strangely, both are right from their own point of view and possibly both could also be wrong from another person’s point of view. These individual views leads to confusion, ego triggers and misunderstanding. The focus usually is to try and aggressively prove one is right and defocus from the concept
which is being discussed and debated. One has to decide their objective in such encounters. Either decide that you want to be the person who is right or you will take all the views around and distill it to become a little wiser that when you started.

Good times and bad times…


Everyone goes through good times and bad times in one’s life. The overall happiness is based on one’s ability to increase the good times and also how one’s maturity to handle the bad times. Firstly, one needs to have a graceful acceptance of situations which happen and which are really not in one’s control. Secondly, one should   neither get too excited about good times not get too depressed about bad times. Thirdly, just let it pass and experience it as it comes. If one can go through bad times happily then you have conquered your ability to be happy at all times.

Living a life of love….


Love is the most powerful emotional energy in one’s life. Love is the most valuable ingredient for a happy life. Love for nature helps us nurture and protect it. Love for people makes us attractive and useful to everyone. Love for yourself will help nurture your body mind and soul. Love for one’s profession leads us to excel in it. Love nurtures happiness and contentment. Love helps in healing. Love can be transferred through all mediums. Wake up with love for everything  and your day is filled with happiness. Just ensure that your love is unconditional.

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